Adelaide is now three weeks old, and not a whole lot has changed since last week. Well, I guess I need to print a correction. Last week I said she didn’t mind baths…but this week that was very much not true. So I think we’re back to her hating baths.
The other notable change from this past week is that she has entered a bit of a fussy stage where she just about refuses to sleep anywhere but in someone’s arms. Every once in a while we’ll get lucky and she’ll sleep in her swing, but the days of putting her in her crib or on a contoured pillow on the couch next to me are over. In fact, we’ve started letting her sleep next to me in our bed at night. It’s the only way we can consistently get four, uninterrupted hours of sleep each night. Believe me when I say, we never planned or wanted her sleeping in our bed, but those four hours are sooooooooo worth it. It won’t last forever and we’re still working on getting her sleeping on her own again, but for now, it’s a small price to pay.
While baby updates are all well and good, I know that there are quite a few people curious about the recovery process after giving birth and so I’d like to use a few paragraphs to discuss my experience as a new mom.
Since I didn’t plan on having a c-section I didn’t research or learn much about it at all. As a result I was completely unprepared for the intense recovery period. At three weeks I am finally back to a mostly “normal” activity and pain level. It was soooo hard for me to be physically limited by my incision site and the muscles and ligaments effected by the surgery. Sitting and standing were hard, getting out of bed or sitting up in bed were particularly difficult and if I had to hold Adelaide while doing any of these things, well forget about it. Even walking has been difficult and painful. But now, three weeks later, most of the overall torso and muscular pain is gone and I only experience surface pain around the incision area. I don’t think that recovery from a vaginal delivery is easy, but I’m really hoping I get to experience a vaginal birth with our second baby so I can compare the two experiences!
If you’re around the world of pregnancy or babies you’ll hear two phrases used quite a bit—baby blues and postpartum depression. These terms describe two intensities of the same phenomenon, where the sudden plummet in hormones makes women feel sad and extra emotional. Postpartum depression is a very serious condition, and I’m grateful that I didn’t have to experience it. I did, however, definitely go through the baby blues. I didn’t feel any of the depression or anti-baby feelings that you hear about accompanying postpartum depression. For me it was this overwhelming need to cry for no reason. I literally could bring myself to tears at any moment of the day for about a week-and-a-half after she was born.
The other part of the equation was that I wasn’t one of those moms who was instantly in love with her baby the moment she was born. I definitely loved her, and felt the desire to protect her and care for her, but the instant “how-did-I-ever-live-without-you” feelings didn’t manifest themselves immediately. Instead, my bonding with Adelaide has taken time. At this three week marker I can now say that I love this little girl more than I ever thought I could and that she occupies a very special place in my heart, a place I didn’t know existed.
Best Diet Ever!
Giving birth is the best diet ever! Just kidding! But it is amazing how much weight comes off just by delivering the baby! I was 180 pounds at the end of my pregnancy and just a week and a half after delivery I was down to 150! 30 pounds in 10 days! WOW! My weight hasn’t budged since then, but now that I’m clear to begin walking I’m hoping the exercise will help jump-start the additional weight loss. In general though, I’m very pleased with the mid-section shrinking that has taken place. I’m not at all self-conscious about my body right now and I’m very excited at my progress so far. I’m eager for my full recovery and clearance to do intense exercise so I can get all the way back to my pre-pregnancy body.
Crying Over Spilt Milk
Breast feeding is an event in itself! It is definitely a learned skill and one that takes time and patience to master. I won’t get into too many details on my blog (however if you want them I’ll be happy to supply them!) but I did want to mention that every drop of breast milk is precious! I’ve tried to figure out how to pump breast milk so I can build up a supply for when I go back to work, and it is hard! The first 4 ounces that I pumped I neglected to label and so we have no idea when it was pumped, and therefore I had to pour it down the drain. All that hard work (it took several sittings in one day) to accumulate those four ounces, and it all went down the drain. I was so sad! I now truly understand the concept of crying over spilt milk! We’ve since gotten smart and are freezing the milk with the pump date written on the bag, but it still proves to be difficult to find the time and a routine for pumping. *sigh* I am soooo open for any tips anyone might have!!!
That’s all for now! Keep checking back for new pictures!!