Matt and I rarely argue (anymore!). In fact, the majority of our disagreements are on the topics of decorating, activity planning or whether or not to have dessert (I am always on the pro dessert side of that discussion!)…and I’m pretty ok with that.
A new topic, however, has been coming up quite a bit lately—my time management. Don’t jump ahead and think that Matt is some kind of chauvinistic pig who dictates a list of my wifely duties to complete each day, because that could not be further from the truth.
The reality is, that he comes home on a daily basis to find me exhausted and feeling defeated. I have these great lists of things to do (some fun, some chores) and I’m a stay-at-home-mom so I should have all this time to get things done, and then all of a sudden, it’s 6 o’clock and I’ve done nothing. WHAT THE EFF!!??
Matt has been patiently trying to explain and illustrate this concept of doing things in pieces. Because completing a small piece of the larger project, still gets you closer to the finish line. Sitting around and complaining that I don’t have any time, doesn’t get me anywhere.
I’m lucky if I get three hours of cumulative Adelaide-nap-time in a day, and I still need to do things like shower and put on makeup and do my hair, (you know, stuff that makes me feel human). Or sit by myself in a quiet room with a cup of coffee and my laptop (the kind of thing that helps me relax and recharge). So napping hours are precious, precious hours that are carefully planned in order to make the most of them. But what about the other five hours in my day at home, sans daddy?
Those hours are not hours, they are 10 minute intervals. haha! It sounds crazy, but this is the new way I’m committing to looking at my day.
“Adelaide is happily playing by herself. Quick! Wash the breakfast dishes!”
“Lunch is done, but Adelaide is still harmlessly playing with her food. I can vacuum under her high chair!”
“Adelaide is looking at her books! I can clean the mirror in the bathroom!”
This concept of incremental steps is hard. I’ve always been an all-or-nothing gal. If I can’t master the art of 10-minute projects, though, I have no idea how I’m going to accomplish anything with two little tikes running around. This is certainly great motivation to master this technique of time management.
If you want to read another woman’s perspective on this topic check out Simple Mom’s post: Perfection: the thief of “good enough”.